10 amazing things that happen when you learn to love being single

  Actually, you can do whatever you want.

 Embrace the single life with these reminders from Alfazesadik.

  When I was 20 years old, I used to feel validated by how full my weekend plans were.  With only 52 Saturdays a year, my mission was to make each of them count.  If my weekend didn't involve filming deep with friends at whatever bar, birthday party, or concert was on the agenda, I felt like that free time somehow meant less.  But with age comes wisdom, as they say.  When I came out of my party phase and turned 20, I began to realize all the benefits of spending time alone.  In fact, being alone became something he even expected.  Today, I enjoy my lack of weekend plans and the freedom that comes with being able to spend a full 48 hours as I please.  Here are some ways that life improves when you learn to love being alone.

  1. You feel more energetic.

  Chatting is tiring, especially when you're hanging out with a group of people you don't know very well, yelling back and forth in a crowded bar.  Skipping that happy hour on Friday means having a full night for yourself to recharge, and also that you won't feel as fatigued with brunch on Saturday.

  2. You won't have to compromise.

  Think about how long it takes to agree on which bar you are meeting your friends at, which restaurant you are heading to for dinner, or what you and bae are going to stream on Netflix.  When you fly alone, there is none of that.  You can watch what your heart desires, and you don't need to work with anyone's schedule or food restrictions to go to that new restaurant you've been wanting to try.

  3. You value your relationships more.

  When you love being alone, making plans with people means that you are giving up precious time alone in order to do so.  That really makes you choose who you want to see, and it also makes you aware of who is not worth giving up on a Sunday off.

  4. Your conversations are better.

  Because you are not just making plans for the sake of making plans, you will have more to talk about when you meet with people.  Unlike when they have seen the same people for the last four days in a row and have nothing new to say to each other.

  5. You become more productive.

  Scheduling alone time into your life to do nothing on purpose has been linked to increased productivity.  When you let your mind wander and relax, you allow your brain to recharge.  Then when you go back to work from a to-do list, you'll be less fatigued and better able to tackle everything.

  6. You know yourself.

  You may think you have a solid idea of ​​who you are and what motivates you.  But once you eliminate everyone else's agenda, you'll get a deeper idea of ​​what you really enjoy doing and what you tolerate just because everyone else is interested.  Maybe you always accompany your friends to see the latest superhero movie, but when you are alone, you gravitate towards documentaries.  Or you agree to sign up to run a local 5k each year with your friends, but when you have an afternoon off, your training of choice is in a boxing ring.

  7. You feel less judged.

  When you present plan suggestions to a group of friends, you are probably used to hearing some conflicting opinions about your ideas.  Loving your alone time means you don't need anyone's approval to explore that sculpture park you've heard so much about, or see that Disney movie you're "too old" for.

  8. You have better dates.

  If you love being alone, the idea of ​​giving yourself a night to spend a few hours in a bar meeting a stranger seems pretty ridiculous.  So if you're really going to go through with it, you're not just going to say yes to anyone who asks you out.  Of course, you can't always rule out bad dates.  But since you're being selective about who you're giving your free time to, you probably have a better chance of having a successful first date.

  9. You feel more secure.

  Once you learn to love being alone, you usually don't feel the need to wait for someone to join your plans or agree with you on how you should spend your time.  That can help you feel even more self-confident about the other decisions you make in life.  Don't be surprised if you find yourself speaking at business meetings or offering your opinion to senior managers in your company.  When you stop needing validation from others, your confidence soars.

  10. You have more freedom.

  You will stop viewing free time as something to be filled with plans and people and instead, you will recognize it as something full of possibilities.  No more stress of figuring out who you'll be spending Saturday night with.  When you love being alone, you are not tied to someone else's idea of ​​fun.  This leaves you free to spend your time however you want.