9 times when ending a friendship is not so bad

Sound like a post-breakup greeting card?

  Ending a close friendship sucks.  I'd say it's comparable to breaking up a romantic relationship, but sometimes it can be even more difficult.  Think of all the history you share with a best friend!  It's especially difficult because, unlike dating, your friendship is probably not a relationship that you hoped could end.  Sometimes, however, these divisions must occur for the betterment of both.  People distance themselves and it's not always anyone's fault.  As cheesy as it may sound, once you recover, it is possible to fondly remember the good times you shared or the old inside jokes.  She was a special person in your life for a long time, and that friendship will always be important in making you who you are.  Sound like a post-breakup greeting card?  The thing is, it's all true, I've been there.  And everything will work out.  Here are some times when walking away from a friendship might not be the worst ...

  1. When she doesn't admit that she's mad at you.

  Being as conflict averse as I am, I have definitely been this person before in friendships.  That was pretty rude of me, because when people do this, it's so frustrating.  Have you ever had a friend who suddenly seems mad at you or starts to distance herself from nowhere but doesn't admit why?  She's probably scared to be honest about why she's upset with you, which only makes things worse and makes it impossible for you to solve the problem.  If she doesn't open up, even when you offer to be an open-minded listener, the friendship could be silly.

  2. When she makes you feel like you can't be yourself with her.

  Nobody likes an outright bully, but what can be even worse is the type of friend who makes subtle comments about your choices or appearance in a way that you can't really yell at.  Most of us have the tendency to control certain parts of ourselves when we are with certain people, but when it comes to a true best friend, you must be able to let it all come out or at least be able to be  honest about who you are and how you feel.  If you feel the need to be someone who is not your best friend so that she does not make fun of you, she is probably not an ideal friend for you.

  3. When you have helped each other to grow but have now grown in different directions.

  This can be a bittersweet reality of young and intense friendships.  Your views and goals can change a lot in a short time, and that can have a big ripple effect on close friendships.  Maybe you once wanted the exact same things in life, and now your values ​​are in conflict.  Sometimes that is too impossible to ignore.

  4. When you have very different conflict styles and you can't fix it.

  If this is really something that you can't seem to get over, it probably means that there is a much deeper gap between you deep down.  Take it as a sign that something much more serious is happening with your friendship.

  5. When there is a latent tension between you that has not been addressed.

  These usually end up exploding before they get better or worse.  Sometimes that confrontation leads to understanding each other better than ever, which is amazing.  Other times, however, it leads to the sad realization that your friendship is no longer working.  Journal.

  6. When you drag mutual friends into your drama.

  Fighting with a close friend is stressful enough, but you know your friend is bad news if it involves all of your other friends.  No matter how angry he is at you, he needs to know that he is crossing a line to get others to take sides or trash talking to them.

  7. When setting healthy limits hasn't worked.

  Maybe you've tried reaching out to your friend to make less sarcastic comments and she hasn't.  Or maybe you've both tried to communicate in a healthier way, and it's just not working because too much resentment has built up between you over the years.  Either way, it's probably time to quit.

  8. When friendship starts to feel like an obligation.

  No matter how dear your friend is to you, and no matter how much history you have together, you are not obligated to stick with someone who makes you unhappy.  If you don't like him anymore but still want to keep things civil, there is always the option of reducing your friendship or spending time apart for a while.  It's hard to lose someone who feels like family, but sometimes we are faced with seemingly impossible decisions.  Letting go may be the healthiest thing you can do, and one day you will remember this decision as one of the most important things you have ever done in your life.

  9. When you feel a little too much Blair and Serena.

  Remember how in Gossip Girl, Blair and Serena had an explosive fight every ten seconds in which they ruthlessly destroyed each other's lives, only to joke when they made up they were "glued to each other"?  Fun to watch on TV, but not so cute in real life;  too bad that kind of friendship totally exists in the real world (without the Birkin bags, of course).  Just as there is rarely something endearing about a romantic relationship filled with hate and drama masquerading as passion, the same is often the case with friendships.  It's time to move on and make room for something better in your life.