10 women share what they wish they could say to their exes

From guys who made ghosts to aggressive nipple teethers.

There are many annoying things about breakups, like having more time to pursue your incredible goals and the opportunity to find someone even better at sex than your ex. Wait, no, those are great. But one really bad thing about breakups is that you are often left with so many things you want to say, but with the feeling that you would be unfairly labeled a "crazy ex-girlfriend" if you try to get it all off you. Fortunately, telling someone other than your ex what you have in mind can be helpful. In the name of sweet, sweet catharsis, these 10 women share what they wish they could tell someone about their romantic past.

1. Thanks for the motivation.

I found out that my ex was cheating on me with his friend's older sister. He used the situation as a platform to tell me that he had gotten her pregnant three years earlier and left her to go out with me, but was now too ambitious with my career. goals and felt 'lost in the shadows'. I would tell him that, as difficult as it may be, I forgive him for the emotional damage and pain he has caused. And, curiously, I thank him. Thanks to him, I was even more motivated to achieve my dreams. So far, they 'have all come true! __Megan Y.

2. Did you stop using that strange sex movement?

This guy I was dating for a few months took me on a fun trip with his friends, where we had sex for the first time (and a few after that). When we got back, he immediately left me. Beyond the ghost, but definitely I'd say this: 'I wish you stopped pulling out a vibrator and saying,' I used this with my ex, she loved it 'the first time you have sex with someone new. The women you are sleeping with now are just like me, And assuring them that you've cleaned it thoroughly won't be good enough. —Kimberly C.

3. Stop removing people from your life.

About a year ago, my ex and I moved to Los Angeles for her job. I followed her for a week and when she arrived, she finished things for reasons I still don't know today. I was like,

4. You taught me what I don't want in a relationship.

My ex and I broke up in late 2015 after being married for only two years. We just don't love each other, so we're better co-parents to our son than pretending to be husband and wife. I wish I could thank you for clearly delineating the characteristics. and behaviors of a man that I will not tolerate in future suitors. We are only a few months away from our divorce process and usually communicate only when necessary. I doubt to tell you this would be acceptable! 

5. You lost, friend.

The girl I was cheating on found my email address two days before Christmas and told me about the affair. My ex and I worked together, so after that, the work was hard. I finally moved in and got a job in a different state. I wish I could tell you that you lost to someone genuine, caring and intelligent. I want you to know how much your cheating affected my self-esteem and self-esteem, because I blamed myself. Also, your advice to "Better yourself "It didn't really work out. He also cheated on his current girlfriend, so it's clearly a pattern.

6. In fact, I'm glad we weren't married.

After about six months of being engaged, my ex said, 'It's not you, it's me' and left. If I could tell him something, I would ask a question and make a statement. I would ask him why he left without warning, and I would say that although I no longer have respect for him, I thank him for sparing me the agony of marrying a person who was not ready for me. I would not want to spend the rest of my life with someone who does not have the courage to say that there is a trouble.

7. I wanted to be with you and only with you.

When a wonderful guy I was dating found out that I was dating other people, she told me I had a decision to make. I told her I knew my decision, she just had to ask. She didn't seem to believe me and.

8. It is not okay to bite people's nipples so hard.

I was dating a guy I called 'nipple biter' for obvious reasons. Otherwise, it was normal, but I was always too hard on my nipples during sex. I was like, 'You could say I'm sorry Justin Bieber for the rest of your life, and it still wouldn't be enough to make up for the time you literally bit off my nipple. 

9. Your negativity made me change who I was.

We dragged on our relationship for months after it first ended because he was going to the Navy. He was always making fun of who I was and what I liked, and I took his comments seriously and held back my enthusiasm and my true emotions for He ... I wish I could tell him that I didn't change for him, but for him. He ruined what I was like as an independent young woman, and I would have been better off without his negativity.

10. I've grown a lot without you.

My ex and I knew we had problems, but we didn't know how to fix them. When we broke up, I really wanted to be together, and now that I realize I was toxic. He's a steroid addict 25- A frat boy from a year who loves to say that he is going to do things, but that he has never fulfilled them. I told him all my successes since we broke up: I was promoted several times, I live alone and pay my own bills, although he cannot say the same. Not being with him allowed me to become my best self.